I recently wrote a piece about being a shy extrovert (if you even believe that the binary of extrovert/introvert exists). I wrote it for The Vocal, a social initiative by Fairfax Media that is action-oriented and radically positive. The editor is the superb and talented Sheree Joseph.
Since then, I have received messages and had fascinating conversations with people who identify as shy extroverts, social media introverts, awkward extroverts, confident introverts, etc. Regardless of how you feel about the binary, I think it is pretty obvious that there is a spectrum of social behaviour that is largely influenced by our brains, social development and mental health. At the end of the article, I recommend Sian Prior’s book “Shy: A Memoir”, and Susan Cain’s “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking”. I can also recommend the Dear Sugar Podcast (Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond), which addresses many of these issues regularly. Let me know if you want to talk more about any of this!