Essay in forthcoming book

My essay about my complex relationship with my hair (and its links to ethnicity, religion and trauma) is being published in the Australian GLBTIQ Multicultural Council’s amazing book, Living and Loving in Diversity: An anthology of Australian multicultural queer adventures (Wakefield Press). Please come along to the book launch on 21 September at St Kilda Town Hall. Patrick Abboud is the MC extraordinaire and there will be readings from some of the authors, including me, Benjamin Law and many others. 🎤🏳️‍🌈

ScoMo’s phobias

I wrote an op-ed for Ten Daily about Scott Morrison’s comments on-air with Alan Jones and Neil Mitchell yesterday. These conservative men may think they are being subtle, but the homophobia, biphobia, transphobia and slut-shaming is evident in their words.

Jones took umbrage at one exercise in the curriculum in which students use character cards and role-play various scenarios related to sexual health, relationships, sexuality and gender. He referred to two of the characters that students have to role-play. The first is 17-year-old “Megan” who has had 15 sexual partners and describes herself as bisexual. The other character he referred to, “Kelly”, is 14 and thinks she might be a lesbian. 

Clearly, Jones did not take similar offence at some of the other characters detailed in the curriculum, such as “Reece”, a 16-year-old boy who engages in consensual sex with girls, mostly within the context of relationships, or “Steven”, a committed Christian who believes sex should take place within the context of marriage.

Jones told Morrison that “all this is going on in the classroom” and asked him if it made his skin curl. Morrison replied, “It does, Alan.”

The takeaway? Some of these leaders should actually read the curriculum and learn a bit more about these programs and resources to find out what is taught in our classrooms, rather than always being reactive and hysterical.

 

Improving healthcare experiences for LGBTIQA+ people

I was recently involved in the North West Melbourne Primary Health Network’s video about LGBTIQA+ people’s experiences with accessing healthcare.

We were asked questions about our experiences and issues with health practitioners, how they made us feel, and what we would say to providers about providing healthcare to LGBTQIA+ people.

LGBTIQ+ People Talk About Their Experiences Accessing Health Care

Is your GP practice LGBTIQ+ friendly? “My message to healthcare providers: take the time to learn about and become comfortable around issues with sexual diversity and gender diversity.” Healthcare professionals are encouraged to complete the Trans GP Module here: https://nwmphn.org.au/health-systems-capacity-building/trans-gp-module/

Posted by North Western Melbourne PHN on Thursday, July 26, 2018

 

The North West Melbourne Primary Health Network have also produced a Trans GP Module, which aims to promote more inclusive and responsive services for general practitioners, practice nurses and medical students for their work with trans, gender diverse, and non-binary (TGDNB) patients in primary health care settings. I’m so glad this has been created! I have had multiple practitioners ask me questions about the LGBTIQA+ community, the terminology we use, and associated issues, since they just don’t know enough.

I feel so excited about these resources and glad I could be a part of this, especially since I have had so many bad experiences with healthcare in the past. Health practitioners need to be informed about issues and terminology that are specific to LGBTIQA+ and TGDNB patients so that they can be respectful and ensure we have positive experiences.

Presenting in the USA

A couple of weeks ago, my wife Rachel and I flew to the USA for two conferences.

The first was the Popular Culture Association‘s National Conference, held in Indianapolis this year. Presenting and attending PCA was a very exciting experience, which is not something one can say about all academic conferences. They cover a wide variety of subject areas, some quite quirky, and Rachel and I were part of the Gay, Lesbian, and Queer Studies section. Our paper was on the representation of queer and gender diverse people in popular culture and how this impacts on young people. Our panel included Joseph Lloyd Donica, assistant professor of English at Bronx Community College of the City University of New York, and Elliot N Long, who presented fascinating papers. There was a great turn out and very interesting questions, including a discussion of the recent film Call Me By Your Name. Apart from our own presentation, we attended a variety of panels (including one on The X-Files and another on Buffy the Vampire Slayer – our dream popular culture topics) and a film screening of Logan’s Run, a seventies sci-fi film that we unexpectedly enjoyed.

Just over a week later, we headed to a very different kind of conference: ClexaCon: a Media & Entertainment Convention for LGBTQ Women and Allies, held in Las Vegas. The event is named after Clarke and Lexa from The 100, but is a multi-fandom event exploring queer identity and shipping in popular culture. We attended with our dear friend Sharon Angelici, who was a volunteer at ClexaCon and wrote about the experience on her blog. We had a wonderful time, meeting new friends and some celebrities, and had a really positive experience as panellists as well. Our panel – Countering the impact of heteronormative and cissexist media on young people – consisted of Rachel and myself, Elaine Atwell and Amy Spalding. The room was packed, with standing room only, and we had a very engaged audience ask a number of questions at the end. It seems that many people in the LGBTIQA+ community are passionate about representation and making the lives of queer and gender diverse young people better than what we experienced ourselves.

Posing with a unicorn after a great panel

Overall, our trip was really fun and successful, and I discovered that I loved presenting with my wife! So stay tuned for our future nerd-couple experiences. ♥

I’m Coming Out (again)

During the postal survey on marriage equality, both the ‘yes’ and ‘no’ campaigns often used trans and gender-diverse people to make a point. Our sexual preferences, clothing, mental health and genitalia were discussed in the media but also by supposed friends and allies, often in offensive, exploitative and harmful ways.

I figured it was time to write about being non-binary and genderqueer. I wrote a piece for SBS Sexuality, and hope that it helps illuminate the experience of being gender-diverse for those who don’t understand, as well as being validating for those who have had similar experiences to mine. It is not a guide to non-binary identity, and I don’t go into detail about my realisation or pronouns. I’m happy for people to contact me, and appreciate those who have shown their love and support.

A few months ago, someone asked me to describe my gender using a gif. I knew what I wanted it to be immediately: Ilana Glazer dressed in a suit, grooving out and ignoring the surrounding chaos. So here is that gif, and I think it says a lot.

Ilana in ‘Broad City’ season one

 

Out of the Closet – The Big Issue

I’m very excited to tell you that my essay ‘Out of the closet’ has just been published in The Big Issue Australia. It’s particularly thrilling because this issue includes interviews with Björk, Courtney Barnett and Kurt Vile, director Taika Waititi (Hunt for the Wilderpeople) and other awesome writers, musicians and comedians.

While the title of my essay might suggest yet another piece about coming out, fear not. It is about the fact that Rachel and I have now been married four times – yet our marriage is still not legally recognised in Australia – and plan to get married a fifth time in 2018.

Time to act for Marriage Equality

Australians, please don’t become complacent about the marriage equality vote. It isn’t the most important issue going on in the world, clearly, but it still matters. You can advocate for marriage equality and for all the other issues you care about. I will be reminding people of these other issues once the survey results are released on 15 November and I have celebrated/cried enough.

If you are a straight ally and have been helping: THANK YOU! We couldn’t do this without you. It has been an awful time for our community, and I truly appreciate your support. It might be worth considering if there are any other ways you can help at this point, beyond talking to your communities, putting up posters, etc.

There are phone banks taking place all month in the lead up to the vote closing on 7 November (https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/call-party-for-equality-tickets-38370977627 and there are many others). Please send me a message if you need more information. Phone banks are essential for reaching people who have forgotten to vote or don’t currently care enough to bother. If you or someone you know needs a replacement form: https://marriagesurvey.abs.gov.au

If you are straight and generally pro marriage equality but haven’t done much or anything at all, please think about why. Are you actually pro marriage equality? If you’re voting no, that’s your prerogative. But if you are voting or have voted yes, and want your queer family/friends to have equal marriage rights (and I assure you, you have queer family and friends whether you know it or not), we could really use your help. Send me a message if you are unsure what to do next.

If you are afraid to ask your family members what they are voting – and this is something many people have told me that they feel – please message me and I’m happy to provide tips on how to approach it.

#australianmarriageequality #voteyes